Man got pregnant and gave birth to his daughter because his wife could not get pregnant
A while back, the news of a pregnant
man who eventually gave birth to his child made headlines. The man has now
revealed how he carried and gave birth to his daughter and the reason why he
did that.
Chris Rehs-Dupin, 33, made for a unique sight when he sported beards and a protruding belly that could not simply be explained off as a beer belly.
He carried the pregnancy to term, gave birth and even breast-fed her and his reason for going through all that is because his wife could not get pregnant.
Chris had been born a female, Christina. He then met his wife Amy, 33, when they were both in their 20s and working at a children's summer camp and they fell in love immediately. They got into a civil partnership in October 2012 and legally married in 2013 then decided they wanted a family. The plan was for Amy to be the biological mother but after five attempts of intrauterine insemination failed, Chris, who was at the time a pre-op transgender, volunteered to carry their child.
After five rounds of IUI treatment using sperm from an anonymous donor and a miscarriage, he finally gave birth naturally on December 20, 2014, to a girl named Hayden.
Chris Rehs-Dupin, 33, made for a unique sight when he sported beards and a protruding belly that could not simply be explained off as a beer belly.
He carried the pregnancy to term, gave birth and even breast-fed her and his reason for going through all that is because his wife could not get pregnant.
Chris had been born a female, Christina. He then met his wife Amy, 33, when they were both in their 20s and working at a children's summer camp and they fell in love immediately. They got into a civil partnership in October 2012 and legally married in 2013 then decided they wanted a family. The plan was for Amy to be the biological mother but after five attempts of intrauterine insemination failed, Chris, who was at the time a pre-op transgender, volunteered to carry their child.
After five rounds of IUI treatment using sperm from an anonymous donor and a miscarriage, he finally gave birth naturally on December 20, 2014, to a girl named Hayden.
Chris, who now runs children’s summer
camps, explained how his life unfolded to bring him to the point of deciding to
have a baby even after identifying as male and how his gender was not an issue
for his wife:
“When I went to university in 2007, I knew I wasn’t a woman and it was
an easy realisation to make. I didn’t want to take hormones, because I was
happy with who I was and who I was presenting myself as, but I have always been
very open with Amy.”
Amy added to Chris' explanation: “By
the time I met him, I knew the issue of his gender was at the forefront of his
mind. And, eventually, he became more masculine and lived as a man. Chris was
my soul mate. I loved everything about him. It didn’t matter what he looked
like.”
Speaking on their unusual arrangement,
Amy said: "There was no question who would carry the baby. I couldn’t wait
to be pregnant."
But things didn't work out as hoped and
they improvised.
"We went through a lot of fertility treatments, until we finally
reached a point where we needed to make a decision as to whether we were going
to do more medical intervention or if we were going to switch bodies," Amy
said. “We were fortunate enough to have two uteruses. So, after a lot of
thought and emotion and difficulties we switched to Chris.”
Hormones released during the pregnancy
made Chris' breast to begin growing again after years of binding them flat and
he did not like that bit. Amy tried to breastfeed after the baby was born by
taking drugs that will stimulate her body into producing breast milk but the
milk was not sufficient so, eventually, Chris had to breastfeed.
Being pregnant made Chris more certain
than ever that he wanted to complete his transition to become a man. He also
wanted to fully transition so as to be an example to his daughter by letting
her know she shouldn't be afraid to be who she is.
“I knew it would make me a better and a happier person, a whole person,
to start a medical transition. When my daughter came I knew I didn’t want her
to be afraid of who she is and it’s important for me to model that behaviour,”
he said.
Having Hayden made Amy even more
determined to carry a baby herself so since there was no medical reason why Amy
could not conceive, they decided to try again. In January 2016 Chris
started his medical transition and Amy became pregnant in the same month, on
her first attempt. She finally gave birth to another child, Milo, via caesarean
section.
“When I was the pregnant one, because I had a husband who had been there
before, it was different. He understood what I was going through, what I was
feeling. It was a benefit that not a lot of women have,” Amy said.
Chris will love to have another child
and does not rule out the possibility of carrying it himself. Amy, on her part,
is simply happy with the family they have and is pleased that Chris is in a
good place and feels happy in his skin.
“We would love to have a third child. I hope to have breast
reconstruction surgery, but will not have a bottom surgery, or have my ovaries
removed, so I haven’t ruled out carrying it. We’ll have to fight over it this
time," Chris said.
“We’ve been on an incredible journey as a family, but we have two
amazing kids and Chris is finally happy in his own body,” Amy added.
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